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Helpless

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I've been here for like two years and met no one on this forum to RP with.
I just have to imagine there's no place for me. No one seems to have similar interests across the board so I think I'll stop checking anymore.
Most forums have the courtesy to throw a token ghost my way but clearly that isn't the case here.
 
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I looked at your search thread and it's not extremely out of the ordinary for this site (I like the patient/psychiatrist plot). However:

- requiring foot fetish is probably the issue. I don't see too many people on here who are into feet, so being unwilling to compromise AT ALL is likely an issue. If you reframed it as preferring to involve feet, but not making it a deal-breaker, you might get further

- from the very first line, the tone is negativistic and defensive like "I don't want", "out of the question", "no go", etc. It gives the impression you might be controlling or high-maintenance. The problem isn't having rules, limits, or preferences, it's the tone and the fact you might as well have written "...and I probably don't like you" and it would have evoked the same feeling

I'd say go bump your threads and send messages to people with attractive search threads, but people already suggested that, and this a whole-ass second dedicated thread of you complaining nobody RPs with you then not trying the suggestions.

Here's your attention you ordered

🎁
 

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I looked at your search thread and it's not extremely out of the ordinary for this site (I like the patient/psychiatrist plot). However:

- requiring foot fetish is probably the issue. I don't see too many people on here who are into feet, so being unwilling to compromise AT ALL is likely an issue. If you reframed it as preferring to involve feet, but not making it a deal-breaker, you might get further

- from the very first line, the tone is negativistic and defensive like "I don't want", "out of the question", "no go", etc. It gives the impression you might be controlling or high-maintenance. The problem isn't having rules, limits, or preferences, it's the tone and the fact you might as well have written "...and I probably don't like you" and it would have evoked the same feeling

I'd say go bump your threads and send messages to people with attractive search threads, but people already suggested that, and this a whole-ass second dedicated thread of you complaining nobody RPs with you then not trying the suggestions.

Here's your attention you ordered

🎁

The foot fetish is one of the most common and vanilla fetishes there is. But then I don't exactly have enough experience here to say that the rule applies here too.

It's been largely altered as the only contact that's been made with me is for unrelated requests and extremely different ideas that don't appeal to me at all. Far too often I've had utterly incompatible partners approach me for ultimately frustrating and unfulfilling roleplay in the past. I'm just trying to be as clear as possible, anything less has also just ended up in disappointment.

This is embrace the flames, I thought it wouldn't really matter and no one made any helpful suggestions before except to bump the thread. So you're the first one to tell me you take issue with the wording. I don't really know how else to try and draw attention at this stage.

Most recently on the last place in a discord server where I left out the keywords 'partner must be okay with noncon', despite largely writing the request with very much the same intent, I ended up in a two month RP where the partner wasn't available enough to keep my interest afloat and wouldn't adjust the slow cosby pace to reflect the fact that we were on the same scene for two months. Ultimately disastifying because they couldn't really walk the line, like I now say very clearly on my request thread. My experience has been that unless you are 100% clear about the main elements you want to see, you're just going to get people that don't actually have the same interests. And now it seems like just trying to be clear is also a path to disappointment.
 
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Helpless

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I guess those hundreds of people aren't interested in what I've got to offer? Which is why I think I'm not really right for this place.

It feels like I'm being told, if I want to RP, I can't do the RPs that I want to do.

On forums that don't exist anymore, I got a lot more interest in my requests. If a foot fetish is extremely specific here, it's too vanillia.
 
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tHeYrE nOt iNtErEsTeD iN wHaT I GoT tO oFfEr

iTs ToO vAniLLa

LOL

Someone who doesn’t have a shit attitude would have just gone to another site without begging for drama and attention about it
 

Helpless

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Hey, any publicity right? Also, I'm not trying to mean to you?

I feel like you're trying to be mean to me.

Also, someone on here did actually PM me a similar forum but he emphasized that they are less vanilla and more friendly. I made an account there today and received some positive feedback about a similarly structured request thread. So Here's hoping.
 

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I checked your thread and along with what Kathy suggested, I'll say that I avoid and simply pass on threads that don't tell me much. You do not have a kink list at all. Either an F-List or just a bare minimum list in general will help those who look through your thread to see if you are into the same stuff they are. From your thread is sounds like you absolutely need to have a foot fetish, and generally enjoy being controlled? It feels too specific sounding to garner interest without additional info and I feel many would just rather not waste the time reaching out to clarify things when they have countless other threads they can sift through. It just seems to be the way it is.

Something you could do would be like writing:

Hard No's
Tickling as a fetish
Humiliation
Exhibition

And I'm not quite sure what your kinks actually are aside from simply a foot fetish. Then there's the fact that you don't want non-con, but want an abusive partner? I feel that sort of contradicts in a way and makes it feel like that's a hard balance to work with.

The bottom line is that there is not much information to determine whether you are a good fit for anyone. And if you have an interests page or whatever on here I don't think people actually check those because they have to go out of their way to get to it since it's not very intuitive of a function. I liked the old K-List thing they had going but unfortunately we don't have that anymore.

My ideas are pretty specific but I'm willing to be patient to find partners. It takes longer waiting on others to pick your ideas than it does to seek others out though so if you're dead set on very specific things then like me you'll have to wait it out until someone bites.

With all that in mind, Fiction Depot is a fairly small forum compared to other places and I feel that most of this community is more plot driven than anything else. Though I agree that making a post here about people ignoring you does not help. It's like whenever I see that one person making profile posts saying they're bored or no one wants to RP with them and such. It's kind of a turn off to see that.
 

Helpless

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You've given more to consider about the content in my request thread. I will be rethinking how it's worded and the structure that I gave it.
I've always kinda of worded things this way. The only difference on previous forums was that I was arsed to put a little more effort into formatting and putting pretty pictures in.
 

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I can now confirm that on another site, the same request thread just bagged me some RP within three hours of posting. So it is the place being too vanilla for me. lmao.
 
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