Random compliments on your writing - Odd, or good?

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Degusaurusrex

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Been going around browsing and dropping lines, so now I'm curious. Every site I post this on, the answers surprise the hell out of me.

For any of you who have gotten random compliments on your writing, how does that make you feel? Is it weird, or good? I've messaged people just to compliment their writing, even if I have zero interest in what their RT says. Example; having mild interest based on the title, finding out I'm not interested, but still loving their writing. I'm curious because a couple of the people that I messaged have been very surprised, although most have just said thank you. Is it seriously that uncommon to receive compliments?
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Violetta

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I haven't. I sent out compliments once, when I stumbled on a roleplay that I couldn't stop reading, and received, "Uh, thanks," in response. Which is basically girl code for, "eff off".

Socially awkward person that I am, I haven't sent out compliments since, so I'm curious to see the conversation on this thread.

If I got a random compliment, I'd think it was flattering, and would have my mood/creativity/writerly self esteem boosted.
 

Ted_MxM

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Nope, but I haven't been in public threads for very long.

But, I'm an online artist, so I do get DMs that are pretty simple "I love your work!" which I reply to with "Thanks!" because there's nothing else to say, and it's not my job to start a conversation with a rando. It's nice to get a compliment, but it doesn't make us besties.

I think I would feel like it was weird to get compliments on writing because I'm not posting RPs for the public like my art kinda is. When I started on RP forums last year, I wasn't sure if we were even supposed to look at threads we weren't playing in. I feel like it's a little weird, but I haven't seen a consensus. I wouldn't compliment a stranger's writing, on the off chance they'd find it creepy that I was watching them write porn.

EDIT: Oh, crap. I just remembered, I did get a compliment from someone on something else I was writing. But they were checking me out before replying to my RP ad. There was a reasonable context, so I didn't think that compliment was weird, and I got a new partner out of it.
 
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Violetta

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I don't worry too much about whether or not you should be reading threads. If people didn't want them read, they would play in PMs. It's like walking around naked. You don't have to do it in public, and if you do, don't be surprised at the notion someone will see.
 

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Haven't gotten any compliments (that I can remember) and haven't given any, except for one case where I complimented someone's request thread because I liked it but I didn't have time to start another RP (I got no response, which is to be expected). I'd say it feels a little weird to just tell people things without having any particular business such as wanting to start an RP. It's like, "Do I know you?". Growing up, I was always told not to talk to strangers (and people wondered why I was anti-social). Our minds are set up to expect to know someone before you start talking to them about stuff, with the exception being when you're engaging in commerce. In that latter case, things are expected to be transactional (per Gesellschaft), so there's no room for random compliments unless it's part of a larger pitch to try to sell someone something. Maybe that's why people get suspicious. It maybe comes off a bit like, "Nice ass, girl!", or, "I like your shirt~"

On reading threads, heh, they're public for a reason. People who are shy about that sort of thing should stick to PMs. I generally don't read threads that I'm not involved in, but that's only because there are so many of them and I don't really have time to sit here reading a bunch of stuff that doesn't concern me. But I like to do my roleplaying in public threads so that I can link people to them later as examples of my writing style, or if I'm reusing a concept in another RP.
 

Lo DeBale

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Complements always feel like disingenuous pandering to me. Mostly because it tends to come from ppl I only know through the site and have only interacted with through role playing if at all. But that's more of a me thing than anything else. I dont really take complements well, even from people I know. And when it comes to people I dont know, I tend to assume they are fake or full of shit until they show me otherwise simply because this is often the case anyway and I prefer to be pleasantly surprised by people rather than disappointed.

I tend to respond to complements as respectfully as I handle all other interactions with people despite how they tend to weird me out in general, though. Just because in my head I'm thinking "eew, you're being too nice. You must be up to some shit" doesn't mean I won't respond with a jovial "hey thanks! I appreciate that" to some sugary words. If people are respectful to me I dont really see why I shouldn't be anything but with them even if I am something of a paranoid loon lol
 

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Although I do like to get a lay of the land on a site before really handing out compliments, I do find them quite nice to receive and give away. Even if it's just a 👍 or a :love: on a post, I notice that it can really boost somebody's self esteem when making posts. If I see a really good post that was written by somebody I am not partnered too, I'll tag it with a (y) or :love:. If it's really good and/or I see myself having similar interests to the writer, I'll type a short compliment, with maybe a notice if they're interested for an RP.

In a public place like this, I feel its important to take everything in stride or with a grain of salt, from compliments to criticism. At the end of the day, it's somebody's opinion, after all. If they like you stuff, great! If they don't, so what? Different tastes are different, especially on a site like this.

That's my view on it anyway.
 

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Although I do like to get a lay of the land on a site before really handing out compliments, I do find them quite nice to receive and give away. Even if it's just a 👍 or a :love: on a post, I notice that it can really boost somebody's self esteem when making posts. If I see a really good post that was written by somebody I am not partnered too, I'll tag it with a (y) or :love:. If it's really good and/or I see myself having similar interests to the writer, I'll type a short compliment, with maybe a notice if they're interested for an RP.

In a public place like this, I feel its important to take everything in stride or with a grain of salt, from compliments to criticism. At the end of the day, it's somebody's opinion, after all. If they like you stuff, great! If they don't, so what? Different tastes are different, especially on a site like this.

That's my view on it anyway.
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I don't expect compliments.

In general, compliments make me paranoid about the person's intent and the actual meaning of the compliment. It depends, too, on the content of the compliment and who it came from. I'm most comfortable with my RP partner in that particular thread complimenting a technical aspect of the writing/plot, but the most uncomfortable with someone (with a low post count, to boot) saying something like "very sexy;;;sounds lyk u writ wat u want me 2 do 2 u??? 😜😘😈😇" Excuse me while I slam my laptop shut, yeet it over the hill, shoot it out of the sky, rip out the DSL line from all the poles in the neighborhood, burn down the local ISP's hub, and get arrested so anyone who wants to talk to me has to do it through bulletproof glass with CCTV cameras.
 

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I don't expect compliments.

In general, compliments make me paranoid about the person's intent and the actual meaning of the compliment. It depends, too, on the content of the compliment and who it came from. I'm most comfortable with my RP partner in that particular thread complimenting a technical aspect of the writing/plot, but the most uncomfortable with someone (with a low post count, to boot) saying something like "very sexy;;;sounds lyk u writ wat u want me 2 do 2 u??? 😜😘😈😇" Excuse me while I slam my laptop shut, yeet it over the hill, shoot it out of the sky, rip out the DSL line from all the poles in the neighborhood, burn down the local ISP's hub, and get arrested so anyone who wants to talk to me has to do it through bulletproof glass with CCTV cameras.
OOF, that would creep me out too, the sexy bit. I at least make sure never to send something lewd in a compliment, because that's just flat out rude. I'd be yeeting my computer too. I do have to say your description of the lengths you'd go to made me laugh though. :LOL:
 

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^ Gave me a good chuckle.

In my opinion there is no need to feel awkward reading a thread. It's public. Not only that, but I don't write for the purely smut aspect of it. To me, RPing is writing a story together with your partner. I'm usually self conscious about my writing and ideas, but I don't mind them being public for those who might enjoy them. I think my interests might be a bit edgy and niche, but surely there are others out there who also like that sorta thing. When I write, it's a story and I tend to think that it's neat if someone reads it and enjoys it for the story it is. I had an old partner who also felt that way and would only write in threads because they wanted to leave the story out there for others to enjoy as well if they so choose to.

I totally agree with it being creep town to be told your smut is hot. Compliments on the writing and how it is executed? That's fine. Whether or not you found it hot enough to jerk off to? Get that shit outta here. At the end of the day I don't get off to the smut I write but that's because I guess I don't let my libido run the scene if that makes any sense? Even in those sorts of scenes I keep a distance to be able to properly articulate my character's reactions so that I remain true to the character. If that sacrifices fappability then so be it. I'm here to write a story, not to help internet people get off. (And to be honest, if someone says my smut writing is hot and wants to write with me because of it, I'mma get weirded out. That's a little too personal feeling and gives me red flags that they only care about getting off and don't care for the story and its development.)

As for compliments, I don't hand them out often but when I do they are heartfelt. I can easily say I'm a pretty honest and open person and I don't think there is anything for me to gain about being fake about that sort of thing. (Though some of you will now instantly find that suspicious of me, LOL) When I compliment someone, it's because I'm impressed with how they string the words together in a way that is superior to my own shoddy writing. I want that person to know that they are good at what they do, because I often end up wondering whether or not I'm good enough myself. If someone consistently uses a superior vocabulary to my own, I'm impressed and kinda envious and it only makes me want to improve myself as a writer.
 

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Not me, but my partner got a random PM once about our RP, saying that they liked the writing and story but that it needed more kissing. 100% unsolicited, but it was both a compliment and a critique I guess, and we were both sort of befuddled, but had a good, awkward laugh and survived.

I think the weirdest part about it was less the compliment and more the random critique/request to kissify the tone of our RP. Although to be fair, I, personally, would be very unlikely to send a random person a random compliment, but most RPs probably could have more kissing, so.


The only kind of compliment I guess I'd take at all negatively are things like "you're too good for me" or "you deserve better" and such, because all it means is that person won't RP with me. 😭 I honestly don't know how I'm supposed to have more kissing in my RPs without more RPs to have kissing in.
 

Ted_MxM

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That's awesome. Umma go critique pounding technique in strangers' threads. Creep Points +1,000
 

Ted_MxM

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Now, something just occurred to me. How do people feel about 'Likes' from the peanut gallery on their IC thread posts?
 

ZetaInfection

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I don't mind them. Makes me think they enjoyed my post. It's a bit iffy from those who aren't participating maybe, but in a group RP I'm totally fine with it.
 

humon

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Likes boost my ego, no matter who they're coming from. But in general I don't care for likes as a feature, which is why I generally don't hand out likes to other people, except in special cases. Likes make a forum feel too much like social media 🤮 where a feature originally intended for training AI algorithms ends up just feeding everyone's narcissism (and in extreme cases, like on the twatter, promoting groupthink). I would rather such displays of appreciation take place within the context of a back-and-forth conversation, rather than through a binary forum widget.
 

Xywel

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I have no problem with that. Lowers the threshhold to give out a compliment every once in a while. Of course they carry less weight than an actual (non-creepy and well-constructed) compliment, but that's alright. It's still fine as a general indicator if you ask me. This site is also still small enough to not have a major group influence just yet, so I think the social media effect is still somewhat controlled here.
 
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