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anPan

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To quote a great man: “You know what really grinds my gears?”

This sentence: “I’m almost always put into the dominant role. I always have to play dominant, so I’d love to for once play a more submissive role/bottom power bottom.”

Seems fair enough right? Normal? But like, why does this seem so common? Has everyone had the same RP career as each other? I don't know. I’ve never had that happen to me. In my humble and worthless opinion, If you’ve played only dominants it’s not because you were forced or goaded into it. If you wanted to play a submissive/bottom trust me: you could've. There is always someone around to play with you. And if you prefer submissive/bottom roles (whether that's all the time or just for the moment) ...why can't we just all be honest about that?

Why do we have to dress it up beforehand? Oh: “I’m burned out on playing tops and dominants and no longer do it.”, Oh: “I’m bound to be the dominant role in all my rps.”, Oh: “I don’t do whiny subs”, Oh: “My bottoms...Aren’t Like Other Bottoms™. They have personality/are feisty/bite back.”

But if everyone says that in their req thread, then wouldn’t that make all bottoms pretty much the same? I, personally, don’t mind if a bottom is whiny or clingy. As long as he has some other personality traits too.

I’m not saying any of these statements are lies, per se. But after seeing almost the same thing from everyone, it just...starts to ring false after awhile. Like they’re buzzwords or something. Everyone throws it in because it’s a thing to say that might attract partners.

Sometimes I think: Where was I when all these people played all these dominants? Not saying I’m a super experienced rper. I’ve just been around for some years, seeing the same names...with the same sentences.

I really don't mind it all that much, it just bugs me when I see people trying to justify themselves for no reason. Like: you don’t have to plead your case to me or anything? Let’s just be upfront and have some fun.


Sigh but I do wish that everyone would also go through a “liking true switches” phase. That would be heaven.
 

ZetaInfection

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I’ve noticed this as well. It’s believable only so many times. I used to get pushed into being a dominant role...before I started advertising myself as a bottom/switch.

But let’s be honest, bottoms are a dime a dozen so some just feel they have to go the extra mile to get a top, when all they really need is a gripping plot and believable characters.

Though I do feel that the classical whiny bottom is not fun to play against, I agree that people shouldn’t have to advertise that they aren’t the annoying bottom types. It does feel like these at just people copying the same ideas from other posts thinking it will get them more partners though.
 

anPan

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Ok, I can see being put into the position of a dominant, If you do not take a stance one way or the other. The pool of convinced bottoms is vast and deep, so ofc those who are have to find partners who don't mind being oppositely inclined. That's especially why I think we need to be more upfront and discerning,

It seems like, to me, people who play bottoms now try to avoid those "classic" tropes like the plague. Honestly, I find those sadistic, ultra dominant, and godmodding empty husks of tops more egregious than the whiniest simpering bottom. At least, the bottoms (sometimes) aim to please. But ya'know, tops usually get a free pass for their dry plots and flat characters.
 
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When I read between the lines of that emotional "I would like to play a bottom for f u c k i n g once!"-type statement with my "jerk-ass translation service" on, I see "I technically can play dominant characters and I'm really awful at saying no".
 

Sky Reed

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From my experience dealing with people, most of them identify with someone they wish to have in real life, a fantasy, a role they wish they can get into so easily and since real life maybe not possible for such a role, they try to find it here. For me, rping is an escape when things get tough and I need a break, I jump on here to forget the present for a while and be in a world where I can be what I want to be and who I want to be.

I would think it is not a matter who you identify as such. A dominant character or the submissive one, for me as most of you would agree is how you would play it or how you would make that character or that role yours, own it, be it and be real. We can always call dibs who gets to lead and who gets to follow, but are you really suited for the role you chose? I would think for me, I would rather own what I want because I believed that I can rise up to the challenge of the role. It is mostly how you play such a character and make it fun, captivating, immersing that you both enjoy the game or the rp. That is how I see it.
 
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